Warning: This article is for men only. It’s very direct and you may find it offensive and insulting. If you do then this article is exactly what you need to improve your online dating experiences.
In this article I will explain what most men are doing wrong and how you can improve your chances of getting replies.
Most guys are lazy! If you are getting no replies then it’s very likely you are too. If you take offence at this then stop reading now. If you can be open and subjective and willing to learn then read on. It’s the men who make the effort get the replies and dates! In addition you also need to smart, educated and articulate. If you are not then you at least need to pretend you are.
Search for men local to you using the image option and look at each face and decide if you are better looking or not. Look at 50 faces and see how you do.
|50||Wow, your super hot and likely a lier with no idea of reality. Stop reading now, there is no hope for you at all.|
|0||Honesty is your strong point but online dating may be a real challenge for you.|
Now you have an idea of where you stand with respect to the competition you need to focus your messages on women that rank similar to yourself. But in reality, you should really be aiming lower as women get far more attention on dating sites than men.
If at this point you think this doesn’t apply to you then you’re wrong. Think about this for a minute. A stunning woman will get about 200 messages per day from men, she will look at the pictures and delete or ignore most of them and reply to just the best looking. She doesn’t have the time to answer all the messages and when she is getting attention from super handsome men why would she bother with an average guy. After 24 hours those ignored messages are now lost under a pile of 200 fresh new messages.
You also need to consider a similar process with respect to age and body type. If she has a super fit hard body and your a bit chubby then forget it. If she is 18 and you’re 50 then get real.
What do you think? Are these good messages?
They are all appalling. They are all too short. They are all generic. They are all lazy.
Don’t use slang and text speak. U is you. Wanna is not a word, it’s ‘would you like to’. If you don’t have a grasp of correct English then you really should have studied harder in school. That aside, you need to use well formed and correct sentences. If you sound educated then an educated girl will feel comfortable and an uneducated girl will be glad of someone different to the usual losers she dates. Thinking you’re cool with street language is a mistake.
The next lesson is a subject that is taught to all sales people. It’s the skill of asking an open question. That is a question that doesn’t have a yes, no or no / limited response reply option. If we take the three previous examples:
|How u doing?||Okay|
|Hey sexy, wanna hook up?||No|
Your message must contain questions as your aim is to start a conversation. All of the above examples create dead ends, they do not start a conversation. More on this later.
As mentioned these messages are lazy. Most men send the same standard message to every girl, over and over again. Imagine what happens to the girls with 200 messages per day. About 190 of them are, ‘hi’, ‘how are you?’ If you send something different you will make an impression.
You also need to use some methods used by professional writers. It’s important to get the first few words of your message right. You need a headline or hot button statement to get her to continue reading.
WARNING: This message may be too hot to handle!
You have fetish & fantasies as an interest on your profile. Do you have a submissive side you would like to explore? Do you like the idea of being firmly tired up and teased and pleasured until just cannot take any more?
TOP SECRET: Between you and me only!
I saw that you have affairs selected as an interest on your profile. I’m also looking for a discrete relationship. Do you like high quality restaurants and luxury hotels? Can you slip away for weekend of pure pleasure and indulgence?
I tested these messages out with a profile which included a complete description. The description was also tuned to match the messages. It was sent to 25 women who had been on the site within the past 24 hours. Here are the results
|Example #||Sent||Opened||% Replied|
Try it out today and see if you can improve on the reply rates from this experiment.